When you are raised around mean people, it is inevitable you will continue on this path until you fully realize it to be so.
I was emotionally abused all my life, even with my first husband. It is humiliating and adds more shame to the mountain that already exists.
The pain that can be inflicted on you can be from family members, coworkers, medical staff, and even your pastor.
I know; it's quite too much for anyone to undertake. But you must walk away from anyone who is causing you any pain.
It can be lonely. But remember you've at least got me cheering you on.